June top coaching tip - how to tell you are in conflict with your values

If you are feeling stuck, procrastinating, feeling emotional or using the "I should do", "I ought to" a lot, this could be a sign that what you are doing or trying to do is in conflict with your values. These conflicts can come from family or partner expectations, cultural 'norms', a motivator that doesn't match your style e.g. towards or away from, a clash between two conflicting values or a self limiting belief creeping in.

While in conflict like this it can be very hard to move on without identifying what values are being conflicted. Working with a coach can help you work out what is going on and get yourself un-stuck.  Or you can try a little self coaching by thinking about the following things and seeing if it gives you some clues as to what values are being conflicted in what you are doing:

  • What makes you angry?
  • Who do you most admire?
  • What would you miss most if it was taken away?

Stay tuned to @brightyellowcoaching on Instagram and Facebook this month for more self coaching questions that could help.